Privacy policy

Collared is built on a simple idea: what happens in your dynamic is yours. This page says, in plain words, what the app stores, who can see it, what your phone checks for you, and what we will never do with any of it.

What we store

Who can see what

Messages and glimpses

Sharing where you are

You can share where you are with the person who leads you in a dynamic, and only with them: never with a friend, a group, or Collared. Where you are is stored on our servers, readable by us, and shown only to the person who leads you. It is signed by your phone so nobody can plant a place in your name. We never sell it or use it for ads. Messages, glimpses, photos, journals and agreements stay end-to-end encrypted, and this does not change that.

Held

Held is for the moments you need the person who leads you. When you ask with Hold me, we send them a notification saying you need to be Held, and it may break through a Focus or a quiet hour, as a safeword does. While the two of you breathe together, your phones exchange the breathing pace, a few words, a hand held, and short voice clips, end-to-end encrypted: Collared cannot read any of it. The pace, the words and the hand are never written down. A voice clip is stored, encrypted, only while the session is open: when it ends neither of you can open it any more, and it is deleted from our servers within a day.

Your Home

Your Home keeps how it is arranged, never what you do with it. Nothing records a tap, an open, or a view.

Checks your phone makes

Some tasks can be checked by your own phone instead of ticked by hand. A check only ever looks at your own task, and it can finish a task but never fail one. When your phone cannot tell, the task goes to your word. A check your Dominant sets runs only when your dynamic allows that kind of check. Each check asks for its permission the first time it is needed, and you can turn any permission off in your phone's settings.

Notifications, widgets, and your lock screen

What we never do

Reports and moderation

You can report a person, a message, a glimpse, a post, or a quote. If you report messages or a glimpse, you choose which; your phone opens them and seals them again to a key that only Collared's founder holds. They are opened only on the founder's own phone, and every opening is logged. The person you report is never told who reported them. A post you share with Everyone is different: if someone reports one, a member of the Collared team reads that post, its words and its photos, only while the report is open, and every read is logged. When three different members report the same post, it is hidden until the team has looked. Removing a post makes your entry private again. Posts shared with Everyone are checked against a list of blocked words before they publish; your journal never is.

Who helps us run Collared

Collared runs on Supabase (database, file storage, and sign-in, hosted in the United States). Push notifications go through Expo's push service, which hands them to Apple and Google to deliver; Live Activities go straight to Apple. Emails, like your sign-up code and a password reset, are sent by our email provider, Resend. Crash reports go to Sentry, with your account taken out, so they are not linked to you. Apple and Google also confirm that a check came from the real app. These providers process data only to run the service for us. Sign in with Apple, Google sign-in, and Discord sign-in are provided by Apple, Google, and Discord under their own terms.

A few features talk to others straight from your phone. Naming a glimpse's place uses your phone's own maps service. On iPhone, the journal's map is drawn by Apple Maps; on Android the journal lists your places without a map, and nothing is fetched. If you turn on journal weather (off by default), your phone sends that entry's rounded pin, and nothing else, to Open-Meteo to ask what the weather was. A glimpse's weather caption does the same, once, only when you pick it, with a location rounded to about a kilometre. A link preview is fetched by the sender's phone from the site itself. Searching for a place for a task uses Apple Maps on an iPhone; on Android the search goes through our server to Photon (OpenStreetMap data, © OpenStreetMap contributors) with no account details and, if you allow location, a point rounded to about a kilometre so the nearest results come first.

Our Discord

Collared runs a public Discord server. Replies posted in its public channels may be summarised by AI and quoted inside the Collared app. The summaries are written by Anthropic's Claude from public Discord replies only; nothing you write inside Collared is ever sent to it. Alongside a quote we may keep the full text of the reply it came from, and the app shows that full reply when someone taps the quote. We only keep a full reply that passes the same checks as a quote: nothing explicit and nothing personal, such as names, places or contact details. Otherwise we keep the quote alone.

A quote shows who wrote it only if that Discord account is linked to a Collared account, and then it shows their Collared name and username, not their Discord name. If it is not linked, the quote and its full reply appear without a name. Replies in a room for one role are shown with a name only to members of that role; anyone else who looks in sees them without a name. We keep the Discord account id and display name of the people we quote, sealed away from the app, so a name can appear if they link later and so a quote can be removed on request, including for people who do not use Collared.

We keep quotes and full replies so earlier questions can be shown again. When a reply is edited in Discord, the copy we keep is updated to match, and when it is deleted in Discord, the quote and the full reply are removed from Collared at once. To have one removed, delete the message in Discord or contact us. The app can open a reply in Discord for you; if we do not know that you are in our server, it opens our invite first. Collared does not record whether you follow that link.

You can link your Discord account by signing in with Discord, or by typing your Discord username so our bot can send you a message to approve. Linking keeps your Discord id and username with your account, and the Discord rooms you are in, so suggestions can say you share one. You can unlink at any time.

Retention

Your controls

Adults only

Collared is for people 18 and over. Every account confirms it is 18 or older before it can use the app. We do not knowingly keep accounts for anyone younger, and we remove any we find. You can report an account you believe belongs to someone under 18.

Changes and contact

If this policy changes in a way that matters, we will tell you in the app before it takes effect. Questions and requests go to hello@collared.app.